I’ve seen several posts on this topic, self care ideas for moms, as I’ve scrolled through my Pinterest newsfeed over the last year or so. At first I would scoff and keep scrolling. Who has time for ridiculous self-care routines like manicures that will get scuffed as soon as I’m home, beauty treatments I can’t afford, or long walks in the woods with a stroller, Tula, and diaper bag? Um no. Not me. That sounds like a headache NOT like self-care.
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I did something today that I’ve been putting on the back burner forever. I took care of myself. I’ve been suffering through a few health issues for about a year now that we haven’t been able to pinpoint the exact cause. My reports always come back great.
One of those issues is back pain that I’ve had off and on for years that has only gotten worse after breastfeeding, toting heavy, wriggling toddlers, and nights of interrupted co-sleeping with frustrated babies. So today I finally took a block of time just for me and visited a local chiropractor.
Just. Wow. I’ve seen a wonderful chiropractor in the past before children, but since having children I’ve become a whole new individual with a very “particular” identity that most would call crunchy. It was refreshing to be in the company of my people in my new chiropractor’s office. For instance, when I mentioned extended breastfeeding he didn’t just nod in acceptance and make a note in his chart, instead, he rejoiced with me that we’ve made it this far and are continuing to do it. That felt SO good, y’all. So good!!
Today I want to share some self care ideas for moms that aren’t superfluous. As moms, we don’t need the added pressure of trying to do some extreme self care ideas for moms that won’t actually make us feel better in the long run. As moms, we need self care ideas for moms written by moms that know the struggle. I hope the ideas I have to share with you today are realistic, relaxing, and help you feel like your true self for a few moments so that you can be the best mama bear you can be to those precious babies. Good luck.
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Self Care Ideas for Moms that Aren’t Superfluous
I’m not trying to give you medical advice (ahem- cause I’m not a doctor and I do not work in the medical field), but y’all. Even if you aren’t experiencing back pain, I’m certain you would benefit from a chiropractic adjustment.
Chiropractic adjustments can help issues in your body that aren’t anywhere near your back. I’ve read accounts of chiropractic helping acid reflux, sleep disorders, and pregnancy issues just to name a few. It works by aligning your spine into its natural position taking pressure off the nerves controlling your central nervous system so that your body can heal itself. Pretty incredible stuff, right? Read more about the researched benefits of chiropractic here.
Monthly massage seemed like something a little out of my reach financially, or because of finding a sitter, but my mama recently treated me to a visit at the massage club she subscribes to and completely changed my perspective.
I won’t mention any massage clubs by name here because I’m not trying to sell you something, but I highly recommend you look into any local massage clubs in your area. The spa I visited with my mama only charges $40 per month for a year of regular massages. You can’t beat that! You’ll leave feeling completely refreshed and you body will THANK YOU for it, mama! Did you know massage can help with stress and anxiety?! Read the incredible benefits of regular massage therapy here.
Okay- I get it that this is somewhat of a taboo topic. I won’t get too kinky, but sex isn’t something you should shy away from, mama. I mean- that’s how you got those beautiful babies you adore, and you want your partner to feel loved, amIright?
As mamas, we’re often left feeling absolutely exhausted and run down after a long day at work whether you work at home or away. It literally feels like there’s not a single ounce of give-a-care left in us for anything, and especially not for sex with these new mombods we’ve earned. You may feel less than hott, but certainly bothered. I implore you to work on opening yourself up to putting forth the energy to “put out” as it were. 😉 Let yourself be a little vulnerable, and you’ll find robust rewards when you do.
Not sure how to rekindle the flame? Here are a few go-tos to get you started:
- Essential oils that support libido and confidence– We love Idaho Blue Spruce and Valor for the bedroom, but I’ve also heard wonderful things about Ylang Ylang, Orange, and Progessence Plus Serum from Young Living. There are lots of options out there!
- Lube, lube, lube- After pregnancy, childbirth, and ESPECIALLY while breastfeeding lube will be your new BFF. Many mamas won’t talk about it, but it’s kinda cruel not to share this knowledge. Fluctuating hormones, and the stress of motherhood may leave you feeling a little dry in your favorite places. And even if you’re good to go in this department sometimes a little lube makes things a lot more fun! We really like this brand. It’s silicon based so it works in water. 😉
- Toys- I don’t want to embarrass you, but toys are becoming more and more mainstream so I feel like I can comfortably suggest them to you. You don’t have to go hog wild to bring something new into the bedroom (but if you’re into that, by all means DO!).If you’re hesitant, but interested in trying something mild try this. It’s wireless so it won’t get in your way, and if someone accidentally stumbles on it in your home it doesn’t look huge or phallic so it’s a bit less embarrassing. 😉
- Don’t forget the prophylactics unless, of course, you’re wanting a new family member. ;)Great sex might not happen overnight. You may have to start by working on your mental and emotional state first, but I guarantee you’ll thank me for suggesting it. I have a good online friend, Heather Nieves, who is incredible at helping mothers feel empowered in the bodies they have.
It’s simple, a warm bath, but it’s exponentially therapeutic. When I get a moment to myself this is my favorite self care idea for moms. It will make your body feel better and if your body feels good you’ll feel good inside, too. If you take step three (directly above) seriously then I’m certain you could request a few minutes for yourself and your spouse would be happy to care for the children while you do. I highly recommend adding Epsom salts, essential oils, or baking soda to your bath to aid in relaxation.
Invest in your Health
This suggestion is more of a long-term suggestion. I’m suggesting it so that I remember to take my own advice. Invest in your health, mama. Pay a little extra and eat organic (ahem- Aldi’s grocery store!), take a short daily walk, drink lots of water, and make time to rest instead of scrolling through your phone when you can.
Do you have more self care ideas for moms? I’d love to hear them in the comments below!
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